You're not a victim unless you convince yourself you are

This has been a hard one for me to grasp.

Things happen to us every day (if you're lucky!) and somethings just suck. They are negative and upset us and bring our mood down. When something like this happens to me for example, I just get so overwhelmed and upset that it really does ruin my mood and puts me in a far worse one. Sometimes, I've found if I shrug my shoulders, say "oh well" and accept what has happened I can move on without naming myself a victim, stop feeling sorry for myself and continue on without giving it a second thought.

I think this is really difficult especially for children of addicts because this can be a feeling felt often, and getting over it or trying to triumph against it can be really hard, and if not gone about the right way can drag you down even more.

This following quote is taken from 'Courage to Change' (I really suggest ordering it...) and surprisingly the topic today is on this very subject, something I often struggle with.

"God asks no man whether he will accept life. That is not the choice. You must take it. The only choice is how" Henry Ward Beecher

So next time you are naming yourself a victim in any situation, make a decision in your mind if you are going to let it get to you and make you a victim, or if you are going to grab the situation by the horns and do something about it.

YOU can do it.

I'm doing it too.

Never alone,

Anonymous