Codependency

In two words: Not Good

If we live with an addict is is easy to become codependent. You can become controlling, bossy, withdrawn from feelings the list goes on... but how can we break away from it? It is almost inevitable to become this way you're living with an addict, so how do you stop it?

A few years ago I started dating someone that was clearly not right for me. It was obvious he had a problem, but I saw straight past it and didn't give it a second thought (I also thought I could fix him, and that was hardly going to work was it?) Little did I know I was becoming codependent on people with additions, because being with someone battling something so strong was all I knew. When I found out what he actually was doing, and ended the relationship right away, I wasn't sad about loosing him, I was more upset that he was one more person that I failed at fixing (which in retrospect, that's pretty sick) I can't be dependent on other persons addiction to give me self worth, and I can't think any less of myself because I didn't manage to bring someone out of their addiction, or for that matter control the situation. 

Last but not least, I only tried to fix this person, and my qualifier as well, because I wanted to be thanked for something. No matter what I did I never got any recognition and that made me upset. The more I think about it, I would rather had not even tried, because at the end of the day it wasn't worth the struggle and nothing good came from it, but feeling more down on myself for not being able to fix them. 

All my love,

Anonymous

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