Sometimes when people are drunk they say things. Sometimes it can be really mean things that really upset us and make us think worse of ourselves. Sometimes, they don't even have to be drunk (so much worse!!) Something I have to constantly remind myself is that, in fact, NONE OF IT IS TRUE! That took me ages to figure out. When people say negative things about me, I simply have to ignore it. By letting it get to you and upset you, it harms not helps.
I was on twitter and found the following (and instantly fell in love with it). It may not be applicable exactly to your situation, but it is a very good thing to keep in mind, especially, I've found, when people always question you about your circumstance:
"Love me? Great. Hate me? Even better. Think I'm ugly? Don't look at me. Don't know me? Don't judge me. Think you know me? You have no idea."
When I was in school, people used to ask me why I was this, why I was that, and it got really frustrating! I couldn't exactly say to everyone "Listen, I live with an addict and that is why I am the way I am so back off"... and then I'd get people just being horrible because they didn't understand. The only people I felt comfortable with were the people I knew were experiencing the same as me. No judgements. No questions. Just there.
Never let people make your feel differently about yourself. You can't let negative words ruin your life.. You need to keep positive! Don't let an addicts life make you negative about yourself either. This is your time to step out break away from all the negative thoughts, spoken to you by addicts and non-addicts alike.
Love,
Anonymous
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