Manipulation

Definition: The Art of Manipulating 

(thanks dictionary, thats a big help)

So, I'm pretty used to be manipulated, which is a sad thing to admit. Recently I got in an argument with my qualifier, and was told that I don't ever ask them how they are doing. I'm sorry.. WHAT?! I know you are probably relating this to your own situation and thinking the same exact thing. Since when does babying your addict supposed to be your JOB!? I spent years and I finally put my foot down and said enough is enough... I mean, thats nuts, and the best part.. this was a sober conversation (which for me is almost worse)! 

A long time ago I decided I was not going to be manipulated and was not going to made to feel bad for something that had nothing to do with me. I won't lie and said I decided this in a day, because years later I am still dealing with it, but one day at a time remember that you are not responsible for someone's issues. 

My steps to not being manipulated:

- Say No, No, No and No

- Detach lovingly 

- Don't give in

- Remind them that they are not your employer, it is not your responsibility 

- Tell yourself you are the most important thing (sometimes it's good to be a little selfish)

Love, 

Anonymous