I am in the middle of learning a huge lesson about myself, and I wanted to share it with all of you. As those who have lived with an addict will know what I'm talking about in a second.
There is someone I have to be very blunt with, but, because of my self confidence issues from the past, I am unable to be straight up, and I'm not doing myself any favors. When I was younger and I used to try and resolve a conflict (I am a very non-confrontational person) I just let the other person walk all over me, and it's not fair to me who goes through the pain, and the other person for not being open and honest. How can we expect people to know how we are feeling without telling them?
So, the lesson I am learning is how to stand up for yourself... how do you do it? I sometimes think that I'm a mean person for doing it, and time and time again I remind myself that is not the case, the only person I'm being mean too is myself.
When someone needs to be spoken too, or when you need to resolve something, how do you let past behaviors affect your future decisions? When I was younger and living with my addict, it was so easy for me to just sit back and not stand up for myself, and now that I am older, I am seeing how much of a problem this is. If I can encourage you with one thing, it would to be break that habit. Know there is nothing wrong with standing up for yourself, and nothing wrong with telling people how you really feel, and you won't get punished for it either.
Anonymous
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